Sibling Rivalry

I had a huge disagreement with one of my sisters last month. Cant go into details, long story , still too raw to discuss. We haven’t talked in one month…
Here I go again defending my parents and engaging in fair battle, but got sideswiped by an emotional disgruntled sibling.
I do not like being taken for granted. But it seems like whenever big sis intervenes, im just being bossy. Um hello what else can I be! I was raised to watch out for them. I don’t tell them how to run their lives, I give my input when asked. They all turn to me, including my mother for an ear to listen because I think outside the box and give a different outlook. I’m older, I‘ve been married longer, I have older kids- but I don’t think I am a know it all.

When one is stubborn and the other one turns her head and wont get involved, despite the many times I come to the rescue, it hurts.

I have an over-sensitive sister on one side and a firecracker on the other- because im so passive with them-when they tick me off- I go off. I told my momma- deal with your kids, im the innocent bystander that gets shot! But you know why they shoot me, because they expect me to fight, silly rabbits…
The Christian in me has developed a forgiving attitude, to pace myself and K.M.S. (keep mouth shut if u cant say something pleasant).

After a cool off period, I said “Regardless of our fight, you are my sister and you need me, and I will be there…”

Be kind when someone is unkind, don’t make it a battle (#30 in Christian ways to reduce stress)

Yes it bothers me that we had this fight, we rarely fight, it happens I know. They don’t owe me anything, sisterhood is in me, and they are parts of me that make up my other half.


I think I will dub myself the family Martyr- Im like the godfather…can’t refuse to help, not easily broken.

Productivity

Physical- check
Facial- check
Back treatment, by my D.O. (Doctor of Osteopathy)- check
Eyebrows threaded- check
Hair- postponed…

I was ready to do something with my hair- but my appointment got cancelled, my hairstylist’s dad passed away…in Mexico...
Its kind of selfish of me to wonder when will she be back, and how soon can she do my hair….
Must be a sign, leave it alone!

On another note, I was very productive this week, I cant believe i did all those things for my benefit in one week- so unplanned...works out better when it works out!

Hair to do?

I want my hair to shine! I am debating whether to add high/low lights to my hair. Don’t know if I should add them or just stick to a neutral color- lighter shade maybe….??
My husband says to leave my dark locks alone. I have to admit that it is so low maintenance and I visit my hairstylist just for cuts. And everytime I get bangs, I end up pinning them back because they only work when she does them for me. I don’t have time in the morning or weekends to worry about straight bangs. My hair curls the minute humidity hits it, so bangs are not compatible with the weather. Except these days are great for them because its cool outside, but the minute I cut them, im sure it will be smoking hot out that I wouldn’t enjoy them.

Long are the days when I would wake up 2 hours early to style my hair. It would bounce bounce bounce. Now im lucky if I wash it and get to work on time. I always wash my hair, but now I just let it curl alone, no added preservatives- lol! I don’t pin it up halfways or do the cutesy things I used to. That’s why its so easy being dark and natural. I don’t have to do my hair a certain way for my highlights to go with my hairstyle. And I see many tv actresses with dark locks , could it be because they over processed their hair when they were blondes that they need to go dark to maintain their hair or go bald?! That’s my theory. Extensions only get you so far.

So what do you think?